Porn and the youth mental health epidemic

Eleanor Mills...porn is not a recipe for a happy love life 

Eleanor Mills is a former high-level British journalist who has founded a digital newspaper for women. In a opinion piece in The Telegraph she argues that the frequent explicit sexuality on television passes without comment only because porn has become so prevalent.

Mills, the mother of two teen daughters, declares:

The show may be called Love Island, but it is really “Sex Island”. This generation’s relationship code is so programmed by all the porn they have been clicking on since they were kids that feelings are not in their sexual script. The ideal for them is to engage in as much vigorous gym-honed rumpy-pumpy as possible while keeping their hearts intact. It may work in porn, but it’s not a recipe for a happy love life.  

This show is typical of "reality TV" and "it is a window into the sexual and relationship mores of Gen Z" (those born from 1997 to 2012). Mills writes:

Now it seems that sending nude pictures on social media has become the new flirting, with a third of teenage girls saying they have been pressured into doing so, according to a recent study.

Sixty per cent of girls under the age of 18 told researchers they had been asked to provide a nude picture of themselves by a boy; 46% said they had been pressured into doing so, even though they felt “disgusted” by sharing images.

Though Mills has been mixing with all sorts of characters and sexual behaviours common to the London  journalistic circle, she is shocked by what passes as "normal" TV:

The extent to which the next generation’s sexual expectations have been set by porn is frankly terrifying. I go into schools to talk to teens about sex because I have been writing and campaigning about the dangers of unfettered access to largely violent and misogynist porn on young minds for over a decade. The speed at which sexual norms have shifted is alarming. 

In a survey I conducted of young women, all but one said they were regularly choked during sexual contact (the exception was 1.8 metres/5ft 11 tall). The others reckon erotic asphyxiation (strangulation), common in porn, is as standard as a boy putting his hand on their bottom or breast. Or take pubic hair: Gen Z don’t have it – nor do porn stars. There isn’t much connection or foreplay in porn either – it’s mostly pounding with men lasting for hours and women coming effortlessly through intercourse. None of that leads to replicable pleasure in real bedrooms, either. 

The choking that has become routine is just one example of how sexual intercourse has become degrading but also dangerous:

“The biggest change in the past decade is the level of aggression girls today are encountering from boys,” explains Alison Havey, co-founder of the RAP Project which campaigns in schools around consent.

“It is normal now for girls to be forced, for boys to get them drunk intentionally and to assault them. This generation has been bred on internet porn which is all about violently pounding different orifices – there is no consent, no condoms, no foreplay and no sexual pleasure for women. The levels of violence are shocking and have got worse as viewers get desensitised to the material.”

When I point out in schools that it didn’t used to be like this – that in fact even a decade ago the sexual landscape was different – I find the kids are relieved. It’s like this generation are lobsters being boiled in a pot – their sexual dials have been set to extreme before they have even touched another human being. This is normal for them. And it matters because when you think porn is sex there are real casualties. And it’s not just the girls.

Mills goes on to illustrate how the lives of young men, too, are being fouled up by the porn style of relating to women. She give the example of "Jimmy" who is able to study at a top university. Living with other students he got into drugs and alcohol, and the "sport" of getting young women into bed – "It’s like a RedTube porn menu. The more degrading, the more the points."

One night Jimmy was out on the town and brought a female student home, whereupon they went to bed, both naked. After a time the woman left and Jimmy blacked out. But he came to when the woman's boyfriend arrived and beat him up. As Mills explains:

The girl said he had assaulted her when she had said no. Jimmy can’t remember what happened. He feels terrible about all of it.

His friends say the girl was all over him all night – but that she has a boyfriend and maybe that was why she departed in a hurry. Jimmy is tortured; maybe he did something terrible. But it’s tricky to work out the lines when both parties are intoxicated, get into bed naked in a consensual way... and when the sexual landscape is so weird, that much of what they do looks like assault to us anyway. Only the two of them know what happened and one of them can’t remember.

The upshot? Jimmy was cancelled by his entire cohort at university. The girl accused him of assault on social media (though not to the university authorities, or the police). And he was ostracised. He is now back home depressed. His mum is worried he might kill himself (suicide is currently the biggest killer of young men).

Mills says she knows of other cases where the young man has been the victim of a female's antics on social media after a sexual encounter.

I am not making any judgments here; I’ve always been on the girls’ side instinctively as a feminist and a mother of two teen girls. But this whole area of consent and pressure is muddled; we all know what it is like to feel bad in the morning after a bender. But I can also see boys are under pressure too; there are many tales of “bigorexia” and boys being shamed about not being buff enough, for not being hung like porn stars – it is a culture which doesn’t help anyone.

The message that Mills gives to this point is powerful enough to make parents take a countercultural stance on behalf of their family. They have to set an example on limiting their own use of social media or in accessing the internet in general. The stories are old hat now about tech industry leaders, including Steve Jobs, had strict rules for their children about use of smart devices. But Mills has further advice:

The point of sharing these stories is to make a plea to parents to talk to their youngsters. Now that there are no rules, it is all about individual choice. We need to help kids pick their way through these thorny thickets, understand how quickly all of this has changed and encourage them to think about the consequences. It sounds daunting but it is surprising how relieved they are to discuss it; many are confused and upset.

I suggest using Love Island as a jumping off point. I recommend radical honesty – talk about what it was like for you and your partner. Remind them that you were not a nun; when we were young we had no idea what sex was meant to look like, it was all about how it felt.

Get them to read this article and ask them what they think. The key is to ask open questions, without judgment and to show you are genuinely interested in their take. The car is a good place to chat – you don’t have to look at each other!

Also the upside of all that porn is that Gen Z aren’t shy about talking about sex. Ask them what they think it is like for girls, for boys – the key is empathy, getting them to understand that sex is something you do with someone you like, not to a stranger. Talk about what alcohol and drugs do to inhibitions and warn them of the long term legal and social consequences of a wrong move. Particularly on social media. 

Talk to them about “exclusivity”: for our kids there is no assumption of exclusivity unless that is explicitly said; so you can be dating someone for six months and they can be sleeping with everyone else in sight – and that is fine if it is an “unexclusive agreement” – known as a “situationship”. Although of course it’s not fine because if you are sleeping with someone regularly you inevitably catch feelings and end up hurt. No wonder our kids are confused. No wonder we have a youth mental health epidemic.

For Christians who have decided to commit as a family to live in a countercultural way, a lot of the confusion disappears because decisions are made simple by the positivity of a "No!", where a vision of a loving and permanent relationship is key to matters sexual. Every "Never!" to casual sex is a declaration of intent to pursue only what is noble and lovely in a person of the opposite sex. With such a family, and a circle of like-minded friends, the attraction of porn is hugely diminished, and the strength of resolve to shun what is dangerous – personally and for our society as a whole – is supported as we strive to achieve all that is best in ourselves in God's eyes. 

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Power in society needs more attention

Mick Lynch, right, faced bizarre questions in TV interviews

"Power isn't something you're supposed to talk about in polite society." 

That stirring statement comes in an article taking a quick look at the power play at work in society, especially between ordinary working people and their representative organisations such as unions, and those big business and its followers like the media and financial industry.

The article was by Australian journalist Gareth Hutchens who noted the treatment meted out by the media to the leader of British rail workers who went on strike for three days late last month.

Two of the TV interviews the union leader Mick Lynch had to endure can be found here, and here.

Hutchens concludes from what transpired that the interviewers did not want to get to the central issues affecting the working people whereas Lynch wanted to explain why his workers needed to strike to force their employer to improve their pay and conditions, and that workers had to assert whatever power they could muster by a show of solidarity in withdrawing their labour in the face of their employer's refusal to enter into negotiations based on good faith.

Hutchens finds Lynch's experience has wider implications:

What's this got to do with Australia?

Here's the point.

When Mr Lynch did so many interviews in quick succession last week it reminded us, in real time, how certain voices are usually suppressed in the daily conversation, and what tactics are employed against them when they do find themselves on air.

If Mr Lynch had given three interviews over six months we may not have noticed them, or noticed how he was being treated by his interviewees.

But since he gave so many interviews within 48 hours, it compressed time.

Suddenly, here was someone who spoke clearly, in simple language, who was fighting for pay rises for working people, and who made a laughing stock of the media elites trying to put him in his place.

And it exposed how parts of the media work.

We saw how successive interviewees goaded him, ridiculed him, and condescended to him, with one asking Lynch to confirm that he wasn't a Marxist.

And what was Mr Lynch's crime? Ostensibly, his planned train strikes were going to be disruptive.

But there was clearly another dynamic at play.

Mr Lynch was comfortable talking about power, about who wields power in the labour market and who doesn't, and apparently, some people find that unnerving.

Power isn't something you're supposed to talk about in polite society.

A further application to the Australian scene can be made, Hutchens writes, by considering the attitudes expressed by economists discussing the rise in the national minimum hourly pay. He says:

Some of them dismiss questions about whether or not a higher minimum wage increase would be just, or equitable, or necessary, for being "normative" and therefore beyond the expertise of economists.

They say they prefer to stick to the question of how a specific increase in the minimum wage will impact inflation, employment and growth.

But that's a cop-out, isn't it?

Economists deal in value judgements all the time, whether consciously or not.

Think of how prices are set.

Prices are rarely set by a pure interaction between the demand for a good and its supply.

The "price" of many things, especially when talking about the price of labour (i.e. hourly wages), also reflects how much power is held by different groups in a market. 

The experience of Australia in arriving at a point where the setting of a minimum hourly pay rate became law says a lot about how power is wielded in society. Hutchens states that the matter is "wrapped in questions about what constitutes a 'living wage', and that relies on value judgements".

He continues:

Some politicians and business groups hate the idea of a minimum wage. Others like it. But after a protracted political struggle over decades, our institutions enforce and maintain one.

Or consider the question of the necessity or otherwise of jacking up interest rates to pull inflation down.

If it's agreed that large increases in interest rates could cause damaging job losses, but it's decided that it would still be warranted to lift rates to get inflation back down, isn't there a value judgement being made?

And who's making those judgements? Economists. 

Even in annual wage negotiations, value judgements are asserted all the time.

Over the last decade in Australia, when inflation was low, plenty of workers were told during wage negotiations that there was no point increasing their nominal wages by much because it wasn't necessary — inflation was so low.

And now, with inflation rising, workers are being told that this also isn't the time to increase nominal wages by much — because it will make inflation worse.

You can't win.

One of the interesting things about listening to Mr Lynch's contribution to the public debate in the UK is how familiar some of his observations sound about the state of modern labour markets, including where power lies, and who makes the decisions. 

The principle of what is just, or equitable, or necessary must be given more attention in considering the welfare of working people, meaning attention to where power lies in society's relationship, and how that power is exercised.

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Women will thrive without abortion, but work needs to be done to renew society

Cherilyn Holloway, founder of Pro-Black Pro-Life...condemns 'the shedding of future generations'

Denise Burke, a woman at the centre of the latest Roe v. Wade abortion decision, gives strong reasons why women will thrive in the post-Roe era. 

As a senior counsel, she was part of the legal team that argued the Dobbs case before the US Supreme Court leading to its declaration that there is no constitutional right to abortion.

Writing at The Hill news website, Burke clears away some of the myths that have clouded society's understanding of how abortion affects women. She starts this way:

Nearly 50 years of abortion-on-demand has incalculably harmed women and their families. And now we have the opportunity to right the wrongs that Roe wrought.

Truth was one of the first casualties of Roe. To secure and advance their radical agenda, abortion rights proponents repeatedly and brazenly misled Americans. We must advance a comprehensive, life-affirming agenda, while correcting the falsehoods still being peddled by abortion supporters.

Many claim that abortion does not kill a baby, but simply terminates a “clump of cells” or a “potential life.” As the legislative findings supporting Mississippi’s law protecting life after 15 weeks’ gestation recognized, an unborn child’s heart begins beating by six weeks, the child begins to move about in the womb at eight weeks and all of his or her basic physiological functions are present by nine weeks. Anyone who has ever viewed a pregnancy-related ultrasound recognizes its striking images as a living, developing human being. 

 Abortion rights advocates imply that women are not strong enough or capable enough to manage motherhood and a job, school or other interests. But Americans never fully believed this. In a 2018 Marist poll, 52 percent of respondents acknowledged that in the long run abortion “does more harm than good,” while only 29 percent believed that it improves a woman’s life.

They also argued that American women wanted unrestricted and unregulated access to abortion paid for at taxpayer expense. This bold assertion purposely ignores that many vulnerable women only reluctantly “choose” abortion after the financially incentivized abortion lobby convinces them that abortion is their only choice. 

It is worth dwelling on this matter of "choice". A letter to the BMJ (the British Medical Journal) from a British doctor and colleagues makes manifest how it is mostly poverty that pushes women into deciding to abort their child. In other words, if Planned Parenthood and like organisations had mobilised public opinion to institute policies to reduce poverty the practice of abortion would have faded away. The doctor's BMJ letter tackles the catchcry of abortion as a "women's right to chose":

However, the evidence has consistently shown that the vast majority of women request abortions due to a lack of financial resources. A Guttmacher Institute study reported that 73% of women cited this as the motivating factor for abortion. Under these circumstances there is no way abortion can be called a “choice”. Indeed the Guttmacher Institute went on to expressly state in the wake of their study that:

“Qualitative data from in-depth interviews portrayed women who had had an abortion as typically feeling that they had no other choice, given their limited resources and existing responsibilities to others.”

It is in many ways an affront to suggest to women, who are compelled to have an abortion out of poverty and an inability to afford childcare; that they have "chosen” their abortion. It is sadly ironic that in the same issue that the BMJ calls for greater socio-economic diversity in medicine(6), it then only engages in the abortion debate from the vantage point of the privileged.

As the journal recognises, doctors tend to come from affluent backgrounds and thus can fail to empathise and relate to women who literally have to “choose” between abortion and sufficient financial resources to survive or continue the pregnancy with a precarious and uncertain future.

This may be inconceivable for the privileged but the evidence suggests that this is a reality for many, if not the vast majority of women who seek termination of pregnancy. 75% of women requesting abortion in the US are in poverty or in the low income bracket. The poorest 12% of women account for almost 50% of abortions and the poorest 30% for 75% of abortions.

Abortion cannot be a solution for poverty; thereby surreptitiously allowing those in authority to abdicate responsibility of tackling socio-economic inequality. 

Burke highlights another myth:

Proponents of abortion tout it as beneficial to women’s health, often hiding evidence that the procedure carries significant physical and psychological risks, and that these medical risks increase as the pregnancy progresses. This lie continues today as these proponents aggressively market dangerous chemical abortions to American women. A 2009 Finnish study revealed that complications were nearly four times more frequent after chemical abortions than surgical abortions. 

Rather than abortion, American women need laws that protect them and their families. They need more social and financial support, better access to life-affirming care and the perceived ability to say “yes” to life.

A 2005 study from the pro-abortion rights Guttmacher Institute found that more than 93 percent of abortions were motivated by social and economic concerns. Other studies have placed this number at nearly 97 percent. 

The Supreme Court has given state legislatures permission to protect the unborn and promote a culture of life. But this historic decision won’t end the circumstances that drive women to seek abortion. Some women will still fear that abortion is their only option. These women need financial, material and other resources, as well as the unequivocal life-affirming support of American churches and social agencies.

The pro-life community must seize this opportunity to demonstrate that abortion is a false answer to a real difficulty, that choosing life is the answer and that pro-life policies going forward will set the conditions for women and their babies to truly flourish. 

Another myth, one that Burke does not mention, is that of abortion being a "right". Courts and governments have made abortion available to their populations, but they have not recognised a "right". Rather, they have granted permission for those who abort to escape penalty. An equivalent to the "right to abort" is the slave-owners' claimed "right" to own certain humans; for the "owners" to decide on the fate of another human. 

Burke's argument comes through clearly - the majority of women who seek an abortion don't want to destroy their child. That large majority resort to the ultimate act act of abortion because they carry the burden of poverty, with all the life-complicating factors that poverty brings with it. 

All women should unite in ensuring that society makes it possible for all babies to thrive in the womb and out of it, no matter whether the mother is a "party-girl", or is a woman wanting a career, or someone in perilous financial circumstances. This kind of campaign will entail drawing up that "comprehensive, life-affirming agenda" that Burke urges. Such policies would involve fresh support for education, the reining in of corporate power, and the overthrow of bland individualism for the beauty of solidarity. 

In a second article from The Hill website we read:

Cherilyn Holloway, founder of Pro-Black Pro-Life, said her heart grieves for the women who feel they are being attacked and their rights stripped away. However, she also said she feels a sense of responsibility to her community now.

“I feel an overwhelming sense of responsibility and opportunity to do more work in these communities to uplift the Black woman in a way that she feels liberated through the community that’s around her and not through the shedding of future generations,” Holloway said.

Holloway said her organization focuses on community and letting women, especially Black women, know that abortion is not their only option.

“The idea that more Black women are going to die because our maternal mortality rate is so high … we’re not saving more Black women by allowing them to have abortions,” said Holloway. “No Black women should be dying in childbirth.”

That’s why she’s focused on combating systemic inequities, like implicit bias in the medical community and economic inequity. 

There's a lot of work to be done by way of creating a just society to enable the lives of children of all ages, and their parents, to flourish.  

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Ethical state of fertility industry under scrutiny

The instinctual imperative to know our family connections

Technologies relating to birth such as sperm donation and in vitro fertilization are the source of psychological distress and physical suffering, a fact which needs to be considered when weighing the value to society of the various elements of what has become the booming fertility industry.

For a start, children of sperm donors have a big lack in forming their personal identity, given reports such as this one from Australia, which opens with... "After years of desperately searching for their sperm-donor fathers..."

The two women at the centre of the report were, indeed, desperate in their search, which took years of independent research and the tortuous process of exploring all possible sources of information about their fathers. Fertility clinics were, at best, uncooperative.

Having children of their own intensified their desire to learn more about their biological heritage.

Both women turned to science — and an American direct-to-consumer DNA testing company and database — to continue the search.

So-called ancestry databases allow people to compare their own DNA against other publicly available genetic profiles to help them find blood relatives and to build a family tree.

In the cases of Kate Drysdale, 30, and Kerri Favarato, 39, it allowed them to identify their biological fathers even though neither man had registered a DNA sample on a consumer database at that time.  

Soon after giving birth to her daughter, Brisbane-based Favarato spent five months of painstaking work piecing together her family tree after finding on a database a fourth cousin — a woman she shared great, great, great grandparents with.

"It was exhausting and really hard work but I needed it to be done," she said.

"I was so sick of going through the process of trying to find information and getting the door slammed in my face.

"I just went: 'This is my chance, I have to do this'."

By this stage, Favarato had already spent about two decades looking. 

Her detective work paid off and she located her biological father, who greeted her warmly.

Five years on, they have what Favarato describes as an "undefinable" relationship with "reasonably regular" contact.

They visit each other's homes and she introduces him to people as "my biological father".

"He doesn't call me his daughter or anything like that," Favarato said.

"We don't have the same relationship that I have with the dad who raised me. It's not like that, but it's an undeniable connection.

"We just don't bother labelling anything. It is what it is." 

Kate Drysdale has known she was donor-conceived since the age of seven:

By then, her mother and her non-biological father had divorced and he was no longer in their lives.

"My legal father and my mother disagreed as to whether or not I should be told. She'd always wanted me to know.

"She has a social work background. She understood the importance of knowing one's identity." 

It was torturous getting the information she desired so strongly. However, with successes and failures in turning up information along the way, she achieved finally her goal.  

"I always thought I looked like my mother until I met that man. He is the male version of me, just 21 years older."

Drysdale and her biological father are both employed in the social science field, but more important to her is his personality.

"I had a negative view of what a father was growing up," she said.

"It's just really nice to find out that he is a positive, empathetic, kind human being that thinks about the world and wants to have a positive influence on it.

"So it's nice that that's the personality that I come from."

Meeting her biological father took years of trauma and heartache. 

"I experienced many months living in a state of near panic that I would not get any information or would ultimately be rejected by the person I had been searching for for so long."

The trauma has led to Drysdale making submissions to a Queensland parliamentary committee inquiry into matters relating to donor conception information.

She wants all donor-conceived people to also be able to access identifying information relating to donors and donor-conceived siblings, regardless of when they were conceived.

Drysdale would also like to see the birth certificates of donor-conceived people include a notation indicating they are donor conceived, with contact details for how to access further information.

Given that some people source donor sperm, eggs or embryos from overseas, she is also calling for a ban on the importation of reproductive tissue if the international clinics involved cannot be held to Queensland standards.

Another sperm-donor child, now in her thirties, similarly wants higher standards for the fertility industry, according to a second report related to the Queensland official inquiry:

Eleni McIlroy has known her whole life she was conceived through sperm donation. But when she talks about her experience, her eyes still well with tears.

She does not blame her parents for the challenges she has faced as a donor conceived person – instead, the ever-growing assisted reproductive technology industry has earned her ire.

McIlroy has had a loving upbringing and said her parents' honesty about her conception has spared her much of the trauma other donor conceived people have faced.

But her heartache began when she embarked on an investigation into her biological origins, discovering the fertility clinic her parents had engaged had intentionally destroyed records.

"There are no records of how many siblings might've been created for me. So, I will never know.

"Some [donor conceived people] get told they have three siblings… and feel that they can stop searching… and then four years later, another three pop up."

One amazing piece of the puzzle has been the response by her biological father's family to McIlroy's approach for information about him.

McIlroy reached out to her donor's family. They said they did not "see a version of events where my donor could have possibly consented" to donating his sperm at the time.

"So how do I deal with that?"

"How do I deal with the fact that he might not even know he was a donor?"

She has shared her story to put pressure on lawmakers to crack down on the assisted reproductive technology industry.

 McIlroy has pleaded with the Australian Capital Territory government to act to ensure others do not have to suffer the same lack of belonging and closure she has experienced.

"You're always looking for something that indicates to you where the truth is but it's impossible to figure it out," she said.

"An embryo grows into a baby which grows into a human being which has rights."

Of like mind is Helena Seagrott, who began volunteering as the lead representative for Donor Conceived Australia in the ACT after she discovered two years ago that she was sperm-donor conceived.

She found out that her biological father had donated sperm once or twice a week for five years when a medical student. He was paid $10 for each donation. Seagrott says:

"There's eight of us so far, but counting, and I expect for the rest of my life… to get the random email: 'You've got another half sibling.'"

Seagrott, 38, has two children of her own with a third on the way, and has become dedicated to ensuring the assisted reproductive technology industry undergoes legislative change to become more ethical.

"Currently there is no counselling provided by the governments or clinics, and what we're finding is that people do need that support."

She has called for a national, independent support service staffed by professionals who have been trained to deal with the complexities faced by donor conceived people. 

To see from these women such expressions of concern about a lack of ethical procedures in this area relating to human life is disturbing. They also highlight how there is an instinct in each person that demands full connection with forebears and siblings in order to achieve mental balance and inner peace over one's identity, and confidence when it comes to forming close relationships.  

💢  See also The pain of contraception

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Miracles – 'they occur more often than we realise'

Joanna Watson...there's always a purpose to life events. Photo: Source 

They don't have to be wildly dramatic events, but sometimes they are. Often they are events where the outcome could have gone another way, with serious consequences, but they didn't. I am talking, of course, about miracles, which I define as God's action in the here and now to preserve our life, and to achieve so many other purposes.

I consider it due to God's protective action that my car carrying my wife and my niece and her husband on one occasion was not struck by a heavy vehicle when I made a stupid mistake while driving. I got confused at traffic lights where I waited to make a turn across a highway. When the traffic going straight ahead started to move, I thought I was supposed to make my turn as well. There didn't seem to be separate traffic lights.

When we started across the four-lane highway a lorry came on quickly but it slowed so I moved out into the lanes to clear it. But I could not see what was on the other side of the lorry. This is where the miracle occurred. The next lanes were clear! If the lanes beyond the lorry had been occupied, we would have certainly been struck, with injury to life and limb much more than a mere possibility. 

When a busy road has a clearing in the crucial few seconds for us to cross in front of the oncoming traffic, I think I am justified in crediting God for this miracle, saving us from a serious accident.   

That God is still in the miracle business is the message Englishwoman Joanna Watson wants to share. As well as describing her own experience, she has collected accounts of wonderful experiences of others. 

Of her own case, Watson writes:

Strictly speaking, I could be dead.

While on holiday in the USA, the car I was in plunged over the edge of a mountain. It hurtled down about 50 metres into pitch-black darkness, flipped and ended up on its roof. Upside down and held in by my seatbelt, I fractured my spine in two places.

Put simply: God saved my life.

In the immediate aftermath of the accident, God provided for all my medical, physical and spiritual needs. In a series of incredible ‘God-incidences’, he brought help through a succession of strangers – including a doctor and a Christian – orchestrating exactly who needed to be there in my moment of need.

And in the months that followed, as I found myself encased in a back brace and heading slowly towards recovery, I was acutely aware that things could have turned out very differently. Today, I am alive, walking, and here to tell the tale.

The awareness of God active in her life, led Watson to take stock:

Surviving a near-fatal car accident changed my life. It led to a redirection in my career and a relocation. But, over the subsequent years, it also led to more miracle stories – of provision, protection, healing, and even resurrection – landing in my lap. 

I published ten true tales of miracles in my book Light through the Cracks: How God breaks in when life turns tough (Malcolm Down Publishing). United by a common theme, they all reveal how ordinary people have encountered God in extraordinary ways in the midst of tough times; how God has broken into some very dark and difficult situations; how he has brought his light in through the cracks.

Cancer disappearing without trace. A man defying death, multiple times, following life-threatening injuries incurred in a head-on road collision. A baby born prematurely, only to confound the medical predictions about his prognosis. Cash appearing out of nowhere to keep a church from closing. A teenager seeing her chronic debilitating illness disappear in an instant. Plus the full story of my own car accident.

Not all of these stories have happy endings. I don’t sanitise or sugar-coat any aspects of them; they are written as they really happened—raw, real and messy. But, in the middle of each one, God showed up for us when we were praying in utter desperation, not knowing what the ending would be.

The reality is that our unchanging God is still in the miracle business today - not just in the dim and distant past or in some far flung part of the world – but here, at home, in the 21st Century. He is still supernaturally performing acts that shouldn’t be able to happen according to the laws of nature or science. They are relatively rare, but they occur more often than we realise.

Miracles are possible because God is at work in the spiritual realm as well as the physical realm; in the extraordinary, as well as the ordinary. He heals through medicine, but also miraculously. He provides financially through a steady income, but also out of thin air. He expects us to heed warning signs, but also sends angels to protect us from danger. He speaks through the Bible, but also through dreams and visions.

These things don’t happen routinely and are impossible to predict in advance; they are always about God, never about us; and they always have a purpose.

Read Watson's article in full here. 

A last thought: Any study of miracles comes to the conclusion that our hearts have to be big enough to appreciate what has happened; our eyes have to be clear enough to see the source of our deliverance; we have to be free enough from distractions to be able to acknowledge the other party involved, and to be able to express our gratitude. Finally, we need to have a prayerful attitude to life so that we are open to the world in all its dimensions. 

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Anti-woke LGBTQ+ group forms in Denmark

Some in the LGBTQ+ community are waking up. The following is a Google translation of a statement from the Danish Rainbow Council, which finds some organisations which purport to represent the gay and transsexual groupings have gone far down the path to fallacy. See the original statement here.

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Press release

New anti-woke, pro-human association for lesbians, gays, bisexuals and transsexuals in Denmark.

Copenhagen, Thursday 9 June 2022

“There has been a serious, existential threat to all of us—and to the continued wellbeing of lesbians, gays, bisexuals and transgender people. The LGBT world has, catastrophically, created the threat itself: An ideological gender extremism that in recent years has attacked everything from the rights of biological women, to the mental well-being of our children. The extremists deny established science, and subjugate our freedom of speech—the phenomenon is called ‘wokeness’. In the Danish Rainbow Council, we call it madness. The fight against this ‘politically correct’, deeply intolerant ideology will be the next big value struggle. It's not just about LGBT people—it's about all of us. About you. About your children. About lies and about truth. And about which human vision Denmark should be driven by in the future. ”

           —Marcus Dib Jensen, transsexual, chairman of the Danish Rainbow Council.

The Danish Rainbow Council was recently founded by a group of gays, lesbians and transgender people who have long felt a growing concern about the influence of extreme gender activism, so-called wokeness, in the Western world—and in Denmark. Wokeness today challenges the well-being, common understanding, and basic, cherished freedoms of our society.

Our association is a cross-political, anti-woke alternative to LGBT + Denmark, which a few years ago was taken over by extreme gender activists. The organization thus dedicates itself today to the spread of e.g. the ideology of the innumerable sexes. They believe that gender and sexuality are solely so-called 'social constructions'—something we decide for ourselves, biology unnoticed. LGBT + Denmark, therefore, works actively for both more and younger children to be able to change gender, just as they also seek to limit the biological women's rights in sports and remove the right to women's safe-spaces in the public space etc. 

Wokeness is particularly hard on children and young people, who are mentally more vulnerable than ever. They are influenced by the extreme gender ideology they are constantly bombarded with from all sides. Things have now become so unreasonable that it can and will erode the support of heterosexual citizens for the rainbow cause. This is understandable, but by its very nature very dangerous for us. 

The cohesiveness of Denmark is under pressure because all the knowledge and experience we have gained in modern times, in subjects such as biology, medicine, didactics, pedagogy and ethics, has been kicked into a corner—without a fight—in favor of a radical gender ideology, that emerged a few years ago at elite American universities. It is an extremism that has gradually infiltrated all walks of life with deeply intolerant ideologies so that many feel great fear of speaking out against them.

All this we will simply no longer accept as rainbow people—not in our name. Enough is enough!

The Danish Rainbow Council is a forum where you can express yourself confidently if you do not want the woke extremism to triumph over humanity, reason and science—and everyone is welcome to fight the battle with us, regardless of party color and sexuality.

However, it is us rainbow people who must take the lead in the battle—because if we do not dare to do so, we cannot expect others to fight. 

On our facebook page (http://www.facebook.com/DanskRegnbueraad) and via this video link (https://vimeo.com/718174107) you can e.g. meet our chairman, Marcus Dib Jensen, and read about the association's attitudes and the political goals that the Danish Rainbow Council will work purposefully and hard on getting implemented in the Folketing [Parliament].

Let us conclude, for those who are a little in doubt: There are only two sexes. It's a biological fact, and it should be completely uncontroversial to say—but it's suddenly no longer the case. The intolerance, the cancel culture and the politically correct madness, we hereby challenge through our new association.

We want to rid society of extreme, socially harmful, ruthless gender ideology and restore humanity, tolerance, reason and reasonableness, for the benefit of all—not least Denmark's many rainbow citizens.

Here we are. Our struggle begins today.

Yours sincerely

Danish Rainbow Council

CONTACT

Jesper W. Rasmussen

Media contact & vice chairman

Email: presse@danskregnbueraad.dk

M: +45 3137 5547 

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If you are wondering why this blog gives so much attention to matters relating to sexuality and transgenderism, the reason is that the ideology that has erupted in this area of life is an extremely corrosive agent affecting individual wellbeing and therefore the psychological health of society as a whole. 

This ideology, which extends the philosophical bounds of Critical Theory, aims to be generationally transformative, expressing the extremism that the Rainbow Council identifies, removing the family from its special category of protection, and instituting unrestricted self-invention as a new domain for uncritical respect, and in that regard, pouring condemnation on any scientific scrutiny of matters of importance to the shape of human society.

It is not only women who are threatened by such a brutal mindset. In addition, by way of permitting full-scale paedophilia, children are in line to be incorporated further within the sexual hedonistic movement beyond the confusion already sown among the young over sexual identity. 

Transgender ideology and its coercive companions must be fought, and it's great that allies such as Danish Rainbow Council are now joining in the formation of a united effort to protect the vulnerable.

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